First of all you have to think about what ‘work’ means. In other words, what is the outcome you want? For example, “I just want to be happy” is not enough. So many things have to happen before that’s possible. Would some of the time be enough?

Is there a crisis? The trouble is that most couples don’t even look at counselling until there is a crisis. We have a questionnaire of over 80 questions which answered separately helps you look at potential problem issues before they become a crisis. Issues covered include subjects around Family/friends, sexual compatibility, personal, general etc. BE IN TOUCH AND WE CAN SEND YOU A FREE SAMPLE QUESTIONNAIRE.

What causes unhappiness is disappointment. This develops as a result of unsatisfied expectation, which you may or may not be conscious of. Once resentment starts to build, anger and unhappiness grows as we feel more and more stuck and helpless. Communication breaks down and things only get worse.

You can do something about it without just making it worse. Unfortunately, if you could have fixed it you would have done so already. Each person in the couple is stuck with their own personality, conditioning and model of how things are or should be. The couple can only see things the way they see them, however hard they try. Having couple or relationship counselling will help you step back, understand yourselves and each other better. You need to get out of the rut you are in.

Couple counselling will not fix everything. It will give you the best chance of improving things. It can give you ways of addressing the events and ups and downs in a much better way. This can help to prevent leaving one or both in the relationship feeling frustrated and unhappy. This helps the couple, children and family.

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