Building and keeping good relationships with your partner may be challenging. You may feel that you are not fully relating. Maybe you don’t communicate well or you are getting into a bad rut!

There are times in all relationships when things don’t run smoothly. Often, this is because people have conflicting expectations. You become distracted with other issues. Sometimes there is difficulty expressing what is on your minds in ways that the partner can really hear and understand. Some people are so restricted by their own model of the world that they can’t hear someone else’s point of view. Sometimes they just don’t know what to do to make a good relationship.

Relationships change over time.

This is neither a good nor a bad thing, but it is a fact. Changes in other areas of your life, outside the relationship, will have an impact on what you want and need from the relationship. Change of any sort tends to be, at the very least, a little stressful. Yet because it is inevitable, welcoming change as an opportunity to enhance the relationship is more fruitful than trying to keep change from happening.

Being supportive and managing expectation and disappointment optimizes the chances of a relationship.

The most important thing is that you need to listen. You need to ensure that there is a lot of careful, clear communicating about what you want. This is much harder than it sounds. It does not matter how much you love or care about someone or how long you have been together you will see things differently sometimes. We need to understand that our attitude and how we communicate massively affects our relationship.

 Talking to a professional makes you feel more in control and gives you real choices in how to improve things. Over analysing, over thinking on your own, being constrained by your own model will make it worse. It doesn’t mean that you are wrong but the answer isn’t to just push harder!  Don’t bottle it up. Talking to a professional will give balance and perspective.

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